|
 He
walks down the street with a
purpose to his step, and
people notice him. He is
aware of this, and
especially likes the looks
he gets from the ladies.
She is sitting on a bench,
awaiting the 10:15 a.m. bus
when she sees him approach
from the opposite end of the
street. There is just
something about the way he
carries himself. If she were
asked to describe him using
only one word, that word
would be “SEXY!!!!”
Confidence is sexy, both in
men and women. However, the
amount of confidence one can
display and still be
considered sexy differs
between the genders. Some
women have had the
misfortune of being labeled
cold or uptight for
appearing too confident,
whereas the same amount of
confidence, when displayed
by a man, draws fewer harsh
criticisms.
Confidence sends a message
of strength, bravery,
competence, and skill to
others. These positive
qualities tend to attract
others to the confident
person. People are more
likely to look to the
guidance of a confident
person in times of trouble
and crisis. This is because
confident people are
strongly believed to be more
level-headed, able to think
beyond their emotions when
problems or emergencies
arise. Confident people tend
to rise faster and farther
through the ranks in their
careers and in other areas
of life, because their
strong belief in themselves
results in the trust of
others, particularly those
who can help them further
their careers and social
standings.
The appeal of the qualities
so often equated with
confidence – strength,
bravery, competence, and
skill – hearkens back to the
time of the caveman. Only
those cavemen who showed
great confidence, strength,
bravery, competence, and
skill against great
adversity won the affections
of cavewomen. Confident
cavewomen appealed to
cavemen because they
signaled that they also were
quite capable of surviving
the harshness of their world
at the time. This encouraged
mating between cavemen and
women, allowing the survival
of the human species despite
the heavy perils that savage
animals and environmental
conditions presented for
humans of that era.
Today, most of us live in
comfortable homes, safely
protected from the elements.
None of us has ever had to
face-down a lion in a battle
for life and limb. Sexual
relations are no longer for
the sole purpose of
continuing the population,
as they were back in
prehistoric times. The
steady growth of the human
population throughout the
world is testament to the
fact that the human species
is in no jeopardy of being
lost. Still, we find
confidence just as sexually
appealing today as the
earliest cavemen and women
did.
Even if you don’t feel
particularly self-assured
right now, you can gain the
confidence that will get you
where you want to go in your
career, and in life.
Confidence is linked to
assertiveness. You need to
acquire skills to enable you
to cope with the tricky
situations that knock your
self-esteem. Focus on the
positive. It is unlikely
that you lack confidence or
self-esteem in every aspect
of your life. Identify areas
where you are confident,
congratulate yourself, and
then analyze how you
achieved confidence in these
parts of your life. Use the
same skills to develop
confidence in the areas
where you feel you lack it.
One thing is sure
–
confidence absolutely comes
with success. And success is
almost invariably a result
of being good at what you
do. Further, confidence
grows with age.
Lack-of-confidence is
largely a result of worrying
about what other people
think of you. And what’s the
first way to improve what
others think of you? Think
better of yourself.
Believe it or not, what it
really takes to exude total
confidence is to act like
you are attractive,
regardless of how
unattractive you may feel.
And not just attractive
–
you have to act like you're
the most
gorgeous person who ever
walked the earth. Wearing
nice clothes helps, because
it will help you feel
gorgeous
–
but the crucial thing is
that you have to take a leap
of faith and act
gorgeous.
Did you know that exercise
can help boost your
confidence levels? Have you
ever noticed how the really
fit guy in the gym, the one
who is confidently lifting
large weights, always seems
to have a crowd of gals
nearby? Have you wished for
that kind of appeal with the
ladies? Or how about that
woman the men just can’t
seem to take their eyes
off . . . tight, toned body,
confidently grooving to the
music in a club, or just
sashaying through the
supermarket aisles? Would
you like to have what she
has?
Exercise can work to give
you increased levels of
confidence. It often works
in very specific ways:
•
Any sport/activity involves
challenges. Usually not
huge, unconquerable ones,
but smaller, more achievable
ones. In mountain biking the
challenge may mean clearing
a technical section without
putting a foot down. In
yoga, it could be achieving
the “bow” position. Each
time one of these
accomplishments is achieved,
it builds our
self-confidence. We know we
can do something.
•
Exercise releases chemicals,
endorphins, and adrenalin,
which give us natural highs.
These can help
counterbalance the little
lows of life.
•
Most exercise involves
meeting people –
often with a similar outlook
or interests, and friends
can be the greatest boost to
your confidence and
self-esteem.
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Exercise can give you that
confident, fit body that
commands the attention of
others. Learn how you can
implement an exercise
regimen to help boost your
confidence by contacting
Scott at
swhite@personalpowertraining.net.
Begin to build your
confidence today. Walk with
purpose to your step. Draw
the attention you desire
from the opposite sex with
the best aphrodisiac in the
world: confidence!
For more information on this
or other health-related
subjects, contact Scott White
at
swhite@personalpowertraining.net. |
